FRUSTRATION
Frustration
could sound like an unimportant, short time thing that comes and goes on its
own. This is way far from the truth. If not handled properly, it could become a
monster of a problem and could go a really long way in hampering a proper
growth of your child's personality. It is a very important lesson that we need
to give to our children at a very early age - not just to handle and manage
their own frustration but also to respond and cope with other people's
frustration that could affect them.
As early as birth and infancy, children use their frustration or anger (by screaming or crying) to get the proper attention from adults since they can not speak. Thus we deduce that it is an emotion that comes naturally to everybody. The key however, is to learn to control and manage it right from the beginning. Even though the emotion comes naturally, the ability to manage it well is really an art and is learnt through a very long time.
If you notice, only children around an year display the ability to pretend emotions like fear, happiness, sadness. Meaning that they are not really feeling them but only pretending them as in a game. Which shows that it is fruitful to teach anger management only once the child is an year old and not before that.
Once the child is in an age where he can understand the management of emotions, the first thing to make him understand is that there is nothing wrong in feeling any kind of emotion. The only thing that's important is to learn to control the emotions and their expression. If you're feeling angry, it does not mean that you have to express it by yelling, crying or creating a huge scene about it. To learn that, is the key to anger management.
When a toddler learns to walk, he wants to explore the whole world and we adults keep him from doing this. It could be the first example of frustrating the child and it is from right here that we need to teach him to control his anger and learn to behave in a good manner instead of throwing a fit.
It a very good and essential habit to learn and must be taught right from the beginning. Once your child is able to learn it he is sure to grow into a calm, matured and rational adult.
As early as birth and infancy, children use their frustration or anger (by screaming or crying) to get the proper attention from adults since they can not speak. Thus we deduce that it is an emotion that comes naturally to everybody. The key however, is to learn to control and manage it right from the beginning. Even though the emotion comes naturally, the ability to manage it well is really an art and is learnt through a very long time.
If you notice, only children around an year display the ability to pretend emotions like fear, happiness, sadness. Meaning that they are not really feeling them but only pretending them as in a game. Which shows that it is fruitful to teach anger management only once the child is an year old and not before that.
Once the child is in an age where he can understand the management of emotions, the first thing to make him understand is that there is nothing wrong in feeling any kind of emotion. The only thing that's important is to learn to control the emotions and their expression. If you're feeling angry, it does not mean that you have to express it by yelling, crying or creating a huge scene about it. To learn that, is the key to anger management.
When a toddler learns to walk, he wants to explore the whole world and we adults keep him from doing this. It could be the first example of frustrating the child and it is from right here that we need to teach him to control his anger and learn to behave in a good manner instead of throwing a fit.
It a very good and essential habit to learn and must be taught right from the beginning. Once your child is able to learn it he is sure to grow into a calm, matured and rational adult.
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